Cyber-bullying

January 3, 2011 | Charles Chi

Studies have recently revealed that cyber-bullying is one of the fastest growing styles of bullying in our children’s lives today.

I know… I’m shocked, too.

But statistics don’t lie.

According to an article I just read on the internet concerning bullying a survey of 1,500 students between grades 4-8 reported that an astounding 42% of kids have been bullied while online, and if that wasn’t enough one in four reported that it has happened more than once.

The report went on to say that 35% of kids have been threatened online MORE THAN ONCE. 22% of these kids have received threatening e-mails or text messages.

While I find this very disturbing, as a parent, I was even more concerned to learn that 58% have not told their parents or any adult about the mean and hurtful things that have happened to them while online.

Boy, things have sure changed from the time I was a kid.

I remember when bullying was a big kid in school that wanted to take your lunch money or someone who just said mean things to you when you had the misfortune to run into them in the hallways. When you got home from school you were safe so you could go and play with your friends. No one knew about what happened to you in school and you didn’t have to worry about until the next day.

Now times are very different.

Kids are not even safe when they are at home. Now everyone who has a computer or cell phone can see what the bullies are saying to you. There is no escape and if your child is not properly prepared for these types of situations, they will feel like there is no way they can ever escape the continued torment of being bullied.

Quite frankly I was taken back and couldn’t understand why kids were so depressed and thought their situation was so hopeless that they actually could commit suicide and take their own lives.

Well, if you’re like me I think you will find this situation totally UNACCEPTABLE.

And I’ll tell you why I feel this way, because we, as parents, can prevent this from ever happening.

How? By following some simple, easy to use tips for teaching our children what to do when this happens. That’s right we are the ones most responsible for teaching our kids how to handle these situations and the fact that you are reading this article means that you are the kind of parent that gets involved.

Good for you!

We have to be pushy parents and be involved in our kid’s lives BEFORE something bad happens. We here at the Better Kids Institute are committed to helping you stay informed with the latest and most effective techniques to raise happy and healthy kids.

Start learning what you can do now; you’ll be glad you did.

Bullying – What can you do?

January 3, 2011 | Charles Chi

Recently I saw another story on the local news about a teenager committing suicide because of bullying.
Unbelievable!  Isn’t the school supposed to be watching what’s going on with these kids?

And just last week there was another story about a Dad who had enough of kids bullying his crippled daughter. He actually got on the bus and threatened the bullies.  Kids bullying a cripple, can you believe that?
I mean, how low can you sink when you feel the need to pick on someone that’s sitting in a wheel chair?
As a parent I’m not sure what to think of that.  Didn’t the other kids see what was going on and say something? The sad fact is that nowadays kids are too afraid of what the others kids will think of them to even get involved. After all they don’t to become the next victim.

My first reaction to hearing about the Dad who confronted the bullies on the bus was that of support. Then as I thought about it more I said to myself he should have went to the principal of the school and the bus company first before taking matters into his own hands.  The problem was that he did. He contacted the principal not once, but several times in an effort to get help for his daughter. Nothing was done and the problem continued.

It would be easy for us to just blame the school officials but I’m sure that would not solve the problem. The truth of the matter is that we need to educate our kids about bullying. Yes, even the bullies need to be taught more about the damage that they are doing to others and how really wrong it is.  Most times the damage goes much deeper than what we see on the news. Children are actually afraid to go to school because of what happens to them while they are there. Instead of a fun learning experience many of our children are subject to verbal abuse and intimidation to the point that it starts to affect their grades and emotional stability.

The atmosphere in our schools needs to be changed. When a child is exposed to bullying in school their ability to learn and trust in their teachers’ is dramatically reduced. Solid evidence from national research has shown that students will learn more, and be physically and emotionally healthier, when nurtured in positive a social environment.

Now when I refer to “The School atmosphere” I’m talking about the unique social character of school as perceived by students. After all if the students do not feel they are in a safe environment they can’t concentrate on their studies and achieve their potential.

So what can we do? As parents we need to make sure the lines of communication are open and that our children feel that they can talk to us about anything. Teach your kids that if anyone is bothering them at school that they can and should immediately let you know.

Secondly, as a parent you need to learn everything that you can about bullying. The better Kids Institute is here to provide you with valuable insight that you can use to help protect your kids. Learn to recognize the telltale signs of bullying and talk to them about it.

Lastly, don’t be afraid to ask for help. You say that to your kids and sometimes as parents we need help too.